This post is as much directed at me as at anyone.
The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over yet expecting a different outcome.
How does this apply to me? Eating and exercising.
I LOVE to eat and HATE to exercise.
Yet I expect to see the scale move to the left.
I cry about my weight. Complain. Sulk. Get angry.
But never quite angry enough to actually do something (consistently) about it.
I see others that have this same struggle in other areas of their lives. It's maddening.
I want to be that friend they can count on to vent and talk to when they struggle but I also want to scream because 9 times out of 10, they are doing it to themselves.
They insist on participating in the same behaviors and patterns that end up hurting them time and time again. I don't know if they don't see the pattern or if that has become so comfortable to them that they don't want to veer from it...even if veering would lead to something better.
Whether it's eating, like me, or relationships, career choices, health decisions...I see it in so many people's lives.
Are you going to eat that crap that's full of sugar and fat? Then you're going to gain weight.
Are you going to thrust yourself in relationship after relationship that is unhealthy and unbalanced? Then you're going to get your heart broken.
Are you going to smoke and drink regularly? Then, chances are you're going to battle ailments like lung/breathing problems and being overweight.
Being the hypocrite that I am I want to knock people's heads together. Sure I do it too, so that's why I don't actually knock their heads together. Because I don't want to be the receiver of said head knocking...
But I do want to put it out there that if you're gonna continue on in the same way, making the same decisions, and ignoring the pattern that has become your life, you're going to struggle. And looking to someone to justify that or comfort you in that misery is pointless and annoying.
Okay...I'm stepping down.