I normally hate when someone calls their child their "kid."
I don't know why.
Joe has always been adamant that when our kids started something--soccer, football, dance, baseball, etc--they would not be allowed to quit (barring injury or some other major reason) because he wanted to teach them the value of commitment and follow-through.
Almost 7 years and 5 (almost 6) kids later, we have dealt with many break-ups already. First, our 4 year old daughter E "quit" preschool.
That's right. We were so proud to have a preschool dropout.
She stopped attending for about a week. I talked with her teacher, talked with E, talked with the Director, talked with Joe, talked to myself, talked to E some more....and then I thought I'd found the root problem and got to the bottom of it.
E's teacher called and spoke with her on the phone. E decided to go back and has since addressed the reason why she wanted to quit. All is well.
Last night, her brothers (R-6 yrs and L-5 yrs) announced they no longer want to go to karate.
What?? They LOVED karate! It's an hour of fun and flips and running and more fun.
I don't get it.
Joe and I looked at each other like "How did we breed these kids who want to quit everything??"
What do we do now?
Believe me...I am not complaining if I no longer have to break my neck to get all 5 kids to class twice a week, then race home, eat dinner, do homework, get ready for bed and do it all on time. In fact, a large part of me was cheering when they said they didn't want to go again.
But...I don't want to set the precedent that they don't have to finish what they start. Especially when money is involved and they could potentially be burning hundreds of dollars up with nothing to show for it.
So...what's the answer? At what point do you listen to your kids and allow them the break of "quitting"? When do you think it is necessary to press on and make them see it through?