Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Am I Crotchety?

I admit, I'm prone to whining at times. Sometimes I even totally fall apart. But am I typically a grumpy person?

I ask this because of an email I received today. I submitted my blog to a site that pays blog writers for blogging. They reviewed the site and gave me some feedback. I wasn't prepared for the feedback. In the email (which, admittedly was in somewhat broken English) the reviewer said they would make an exception and give me personal feedback. Here is what it said:

"I don't use to give a personal comment but I'll make it exceptional.

1st - you have 4 great children and you should not be so frustrated of it. I know it is sometimes hard - I have 3 of them 6 - 13 y/o :-)

For more productive advice - you should follow some SEO rules in order to promote your blog. Blogging can be a very good income if you give it the time like any other job."

Then they closed with "Good Luck" and their name.

The part that stung a little (and maybe I'm just too sensitive) is the line saying being a mom shouldn't frustrate me so much. I went back and re-read my postings. I'm not sure where they got the idea that I am so frustrated. Maybe I do focus too much on the seemingly negative, but (I think) I try to convey the funny parts of being a mom; the sarcasm, the wit, the moments that are so ridiculous that you have to laugh, but maybe I am just a gloomy gus. Do I wear the title of Mom like a ball and chain around my foot? Am I missing the blessing of it all? I hope not!

This whole thing has me feeling kind of sad. So, I looked in the Bible to see what God says about children. Here's what I found:

Psalm 127:3-5- Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.

Psalm 139: 15-16-My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one came to be.

My kids are a blessing and I may take that for granted. While I know that I would do anything for them, do they know that? How am I presenting myself to them and the world? Maybe not in such a positive light. It's been eye-opening. It makes me think back on the times when I have been anything but sweet and caring to them. Times like when I'm on the phone on a "very important call" and my kids want to tell me something and I walk away from them or-worse-put my hand up in their faces and tell them to be quiet. Years, months, days-- heck even HOURS--from now, I won't even remember that person on the phone, but my kids will remember being put off by me.

...Or like right at this very moment...I am writing here when I could be off playing with my kids. Granted, they are playing in the same room as me and seem to be having a great time, but am I squandering away this precious time I have with them?

Sigh. I feel like I am running up the down escalator sometimes. Uh oh. Is that me being crotchety?

What do you think? Those of you who know me, how do you see me? Those who don't, do you feel this way too?

Be honest. I think I can take it.


  1. Now listen here Gerturd Grace! (BTW.. that's who we are now.. since neither of us can remember who was who!) Don't let someone who doesn't know you, except for reading a few out-takes from your blog, pass judgment on you! Raising these kids of ours is a true juggling act most days and I for one, can understand every angle you are coming from! It's something I struggle with too.. so I feel like I can tell you with love, if - and - or - when you need to get your Granny Panties out of a bunch, and know that you would laugh with me as I told you so! This is NOT one of those times though! I think sometimes things people say hurt us more when we KNOW they're right, we just didn't need them to tell us so! Much love to you Mama!!

  2. Thank you "big butt buddy." =) Your words mean a lot to me because you have known me so long and you know exactly what my days are like. Love ya!

  3. Mandy, being a good mom, a great mom. a caring mom, or an indifferent mom, a "could care less mom, or doing your best and giving 100% is a hard trick to pull off. I feel that you are doing a wonderful job at being a wonderful loving and caring mom. I say this from the heart. love you.

  4. Thank you, Mom! Love you too! xoxoxo

  5. You're not crotchety --- you're normal! Even just from meeting you for a few minutes at the cookie counter, I can tell you're filled with the Holy Spirit and a lover of your family ... so you can't be crotchety!! Because if you are .... what does that make me?!?!?! BTW. my hubby loves the Casting Crowns music ... I believe his church band will soon be playing "Until the Whole World Hears"! Yes!

  6. THANK YOU, Heidi!!!!!!

    I have to find out where you go to church. Would love to hear that song in person! =)


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